Also don’t forget the noble, oft-ignored cock ring, which constricts blood flow and helps men keep it up. Sometimes, a guy just needs to get his groove back for a while so he can relax and start having fun again. If his doctor recommends it, there’s no shame in popping a pill if it solves the problem - particularly if it helps alleviate the anxiety.
Drugs like Viagra or Cialis or Levitra work for many, many men. In terms of practical solutions, this is a common problem so there are some common aids. Whenever there’s even a chance of a medical problem, my advice is always: Why not check with a professional?
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If his anxiety is extreme, it never hurts to see a professional therapist. Sometimes, impotence is a side effect of prescription drugs. He can also visit the doctor to see if there’s any medical reason for his condition (anything from heart disease to diabetes and obesity). He can follow the common general physical advice: Sleep well, eat well, exercise, and moderate or abstain from drinking and drugs. Maybe you should try some of the things that are proven to work?” “Don’t worry: Plenty of guys go through this. Luckily, this problem is so common there are some common solutions, which you should gently suggest - again, by telling him that this is completely normal. Anxiety-driven impotence can be a vicious cycle: Quite unlike his dick, the problem just grows and grows. That freaks them out even more, and that anxiety feeds on itself in a fairly classic and unfortunately common pattern: When a guy has trouble getting it up, he gets so down that the impotence gets worse before it gets better. That silence often makes guys, especially young guys, panicky - like they’re the only ones in the world dealing with this problem.
Your boyfriend is having a pretty normal problem but because guys are so insecure, they almost never talk about it. How can I help him fix this, and reassure him in the meantime that I care about him and want to support him? I'm afraid this is going to continue to get worse, not only sexually but emotionally in our relationship. We've stopped having sex during the week because our busy lives mean we don't have an hour or more to devote to sex (which is sometimes what it takes), or we can't have sex at all because of what he's experiencing. But the situation seems to be only getting worse. When we do have sex, I'm almost always really satisfied and I care a lot about him, both things I express in and outside of the bedroom. It's obviously a difficult situation to talk about, but he says he feels pressure when he's with me (versus previous random hookups he wasn't invested in), so he psyches himself out. My boyfriend has a hard time getting and staying hard.